How Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men Explain Their Encounters

How Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men Explain Their Encounters

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How Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men Explain Their Encounters
New York Magazine ^ | 2/14 | Jesse Singal

Posted on 02/18/2017 7:54:30 PM PST by ErikJohnsky

The subject of straight-identifying men who have sex with other men is a fascinating one, in that it shines a light on some extremely potent, personal concepts pertaining to identity and sexuality and one’s place in society. That’s why some sociologists and other researchers have been very eager to seek out such men and hear them explain how they fit same-sex sexual activity into their conception of heterosexuality.

The latest such research comes in the journal Sexualities, from Héctor Carrillo and Amanda Hoffman of Northwestern University. They conducted 100 interviews, with men who identified as straight but sought out casual sex with men online, hoping to better understand this population. A big chunk of the article consists of snippets from those interviews, which were primarily conducted online by three female researchers, and at the end Carillo and Hoffman sum up what they found…


“Interestingly,” write Carrillo and Hoffman, “being dominated by a man seemed to them less threatening than being dominated by a steady female partner, perhaps because it could be construed as a temporary fantasy, instead of meaning a permanent change in the gender balance.”

This same dynamic popped up the last study on this subject I covered — the idea that men “get” something about sex that women don’t, and that because there’s a fully mutual understanding that what’s going on is just sex, same-sex experiences can be set off safely away from the rest of one’s (heterosexual) identity.

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ummm if you actively do men (outside of prison), you’re gay. You can’t “identify” as with everything. You either are or aren’t. The left is trying to do with sexuality what Lenin tried with economic class; make us all the same, even when we aren’t.

To: ErikJohnsky

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To: ErikJohnsky

One is reminded of the famous Bridge Builder, Pierre.

This is a family web site, so I’ll leave it at that, other than to say he only deviated once!

But, do they call him “Pierre, the famous Bridge Builder?”


4 posted on 02/18/2017 7:57:40 PM PST by Taxman

To: ErikJohnsky

Very true.

5 posted on 02/18/2017 7:58:08 PM PST by fortheDeclaration (Pr 14:34 Righteousness exalteth a nation:but sin is a reproach to any people)

To: ErikJohnsky

They can define themselves any way they want, but are at the very least bisexual. At the most they are gay and the closet door is stuck.


6 posted on 02/18/2017 7:58:15 PM PST by Celtic Conservative (CC: purveyor of cryptic, snarky posts since December, 2000..)

To: ErikJohnsky

“fag peddler”


To: ErikJohnsky

8 posted on 02/18/2017 7:59:04 PM PST by Fungi (Every breath, another five thousand fungal spores enter your body. All five thousand will be named.)

To: ErikJohnsky

New York Magazine??

Queerness re-defined…

9 posted on 02/18/2017 7:59:08 PM PST by heterosupremacist (Domine Iesu Christe, Filius Dei, miserere me peccatorem!)

To: ErikJohnsky

“if you actively do men (outside of prison), you’re gay. “

If you do men, you are gay.

To: Taxman

Looked it up. Ha Ha.

To: ErikJohnsky

“….same way they explain someone else *hit in his shorts”

12 posted on 02/18/2017 8:01:51 PM PST by Doogle (( USAF.68-73..8th TFW Ubon Thailand..never store a threat you should have eliminated)))

To: ErikJohnsky

You have a screw loose if you think I’d send him an email.

To: ErikJohnsky


14 posted on 02/18/2017 8:03:49 PM PST by livius

To: ErikJohnsky

Straight my ass.

15 posted on 02/18/2017 8:04:04 PM PST by Old Yeller (Auto-correct has become my worst enema.)

To: ErikJohnsky

Busting open the rear doors to the Bourneville Boulevard makes a man a Butt bandit, regardless of circumstances. Use a Sock for Fks sake.

16 posted on 02/18/2017 8:04:07 PM PST by moose07 (DMCS (Dit Me Cong San ) Forward to the glorious world of next Tuesday !)

To: ErikJohnsky

It’s called self-deception, delusion, or denial.

17 posted on 02/18/2017 8:04:38 PM PST by IronJack

To: DesertRhino

Straight men do NOT have sex with homos; they would no longer be ‘straight’ men, if they did…

18 posted on 02/18/2017 8:05:07 PM PST by heterosupremacist (Domine Iesu Christe, Filius Dei, miserere me peccatorem!)

To: ErikJohnsky

To: ErikJohnsky

How Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men Explain Their Encounters

Really, really bad vision? Reminds of the old joke about the rabbit: “Wham bam, thank you maam! Wham bam, thank you maam! Wham bam, oops — sorry Sam!”

20 posted on 02/18/2017 8:06:10 PM PST by Still Thinking (Freedom is NOT a loophole!)

To: ErikJohnsky

It’s a DC thing you wouldn’t understand…

To: ErikJohnsky

Straight men do not have sex with other men.

22 posted on 02/18/2017 8:06:38 PM PST by sport

To: ErikJohnsky

To: ErikJohnsky

It can be explained in one word: Sin.

24 posted on 02/18/2017 8:08:15 PM PST by Restless

To: ErikJohnsky

I worked with one of these guys. He called himself straight, but he was involved with the other gay guy at work. He used to get furious if anyone called him gay.
He would say I’m not gay because I’m a pitcher not a catcher.

25 posted on 02/18/2017 8:08:54 PM PST by kara37

To: ErikJohnsky

How do you know if your roommate’s gay?

If his schlong tastes like crap!


26 posted on 02/18/2017 8:09:29 PM PST by Still Thinking (Freedom is NOT a loophole!)

To: ErikJohnsky

…men who identified as straight but sought out casual sex with men online, hoping to better understand this population.

They do this because the left tries to push it upon everyone to be “open”, or be a bigot. If you have sex with your own gender, you’re gay. It’s not something you’re born with, it’s something you learn. Sin is also something you learn.

27 posted on 02/18/2017 8:10:18 PM PST by Telepathic Intruder (The only thing the Left has learned from the failures of socialism is not to call it that)

To: ErikJohnsky

Ah, yes, THAT Jesse Singal. His opinions and research are top notch, surely.

To: Snickering Hound

My Navy squadron took the guy on the right (20+ years ago) into a bar in Thailand that has girls shooting darts across the room, girls writing your name on a t-shirt using no hands, goldfish falling, etc.

He lasted about 15 minutes before he realized he should probably not stay in there anymore, then we went back outside to the kickboxing area.

To: ErikJohnsky

This same dynamic popped up …


To: ErikJohnsky

Denial is the religion of the special snowflake.

31 posted on 02/18/2017 8:16:32 PM PST by E. Pluribus Unum (President Trump is coming, and the rule of law is coming with him.)

To: ErikJohnsky

always make a FAGGOT ALERT! warning on the headline..

32 posted on 02/18/2017 8:17:30 PM PST by max americana (For the 9th time FIRED LIBERALS from our company at this election, and every election since 2008)

To: DesertRhino


I’m reminded of something from the 90s. In some California city hall the town council had heard someone speak about homosexuals. On hearing a description of their activities one councilwoman, as I seem to recall it being, expressed her disbelief that homosexuals might be accused of engaging in sodomy … they didn’t do that!

… someone should have handed her her “I’m stupid” sign then and there.

33 posted on 02/18/2017 8:18:00 PM PST by Rurudyne (Standup Philosopher)

To: ErikJohnsky

Another attempt to normalize homosexual behavior.

34 posted on 02/18/2017 8:19:07 PM PST by TADSLOS (Reset Underway!)

To: ErikJohnsky

Uh……they’re gay??

35 posted on 02/18/2017 8:19:22 PM PST by rbg81 (Truth is stranger than fiction)

To: ErikJohnsky

Come on, this is BS.

This whole concept is African and Middle Eastern:

“Having sex with another man does NOT make you gay”

In fact many non-white cultures have weird psychology to try and explain it away, it’s ridiculous. They (the media) are trying to export that to middle-class caucasians. That’s the aim.

At UCSF they have research positions that aim to research the connection between meth and gay dudes, what makes it tick but to get ANY non-white gay dudes to participate as research subjects years ago they had to create this stupid new acronym:

MSM – Men who have Sex with other Men

Know why?

Cuz every time they said GAY, these fags would just say, “Oh! GAY..!!! Well, that sure as hell isn’t ME…!!”


36 posted on 02/18/2017 8:21:52 PM PST by gaijin

To: ErikJohnsky

I’d say if you willingly have sex with men in prison you’re gay as well

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